How We Love Our Kids

How We Love Our Kids by Milan and Kay Yerkovich is based on the concept of attachment styles and emotional patterns developed within their broader model “How We Love”. The book explores how early parent-child relationships shape later emotional development, behavior, self-esteem, and the ability to form healthy relationships.

The authors describe several basic love and attachment styles—secure, avoidant, ambivalent, and disorganized—and explain how they are passed down from generation to generation through unconscious behavioral patterns. Special emphasis is placed on recognizing one’s own parenting style and understanding how stress, trauma, and unresolved emotional needs affect child rearing.

The book offers practical guidelines for developing more secure attachments, including parental emotional regulation, empathetic communication, and creating a stable family environment. It integrates psychological concepts with experiential examples and a consultative approach, making it a useful guide for parents, counselors, and professionals working with families.